Mom guilt is STRONG when your little is going through tough times and your struggle to give 8000% to them in hopes you can make their life easier but the reality is sometimes there is just NOTHING you can do or could have done. It’s easy to accept that logically but it’s hard to let that truth into your heart. You’re their mom- you are the one to comfort them and make it all better- but sometimes you have to accept it’s just not in the cards,
I have a mommy friend who is going on week 6 of colic which basically from day 1. I have a mommy friend whose youngest was born with down syndrome. I myself have a toddler who I am learning about more and more how to help-as he is also not neurotypical.
When I accepted that my little boy is not just a little delayed in talking, not just a little quirky- that he is really going through something it broke my heart.
I wondered if somehow having an intense interest in Autism in my adult life somehow drew it into my family. I wondered if somehow I passed along “faulty” genes. I wondered if somehow my parenting skills or lack thereof made him have to go through these challenges. I know a lot of you feel this way- no matter what your child’s struggle may be.
But really the most important things are:
- Is your child(ren)’s belly full?
- Are they safe?
- Are your filling up their “attachment bucket” with lots of eye contact and cuddles?
- Do they laugh and smile?
Then you’re doing an amazing job! Everything else is just the cherry on the sundae that is their childhood!