I read this tragic article the other day about one little boy who so painstakingly and repeatedly tried over and over again to prove he was worthy of love, of protection, of family and was left alone over and over again. Honestly I don’t know if I see myself or my family in those stories- we’re luckily all here, no one in my family has yet to be murdered thankfully.
Everyone in the previous generations of my family began having children before age twenty and nearly all before they were ready financially or emotionally. My own mother has had many personal struggles and new before I was born she could not raise me. I can only imagine who I would have become had my mother attempted to raise me, making me a part of her struggles. I will forever be thankful to her brother, my uncle and his wife who always wanted but never had a daughter of their own and who took me in. They raised me with the values, love, structure and support I needed to be the person I am today. I am thankful to my mother for bringing me into this world as a teen who was not ready to be a parent, and I am thankful to my parents for showing me what it meant to always put your child’s needs first.
Not every child born to a parent who is not able to raise them is so lucky as I was to have someone in their family who is not only willing but capable to take them in and give them the life they need. I know that my situation is not common and different than a typical adoption- I knew my birth mother and saw her regularly and was able to continue to be a part of my birth family.
There are so many children who for many different reasons find themselves having a very difficult life, who have no parent to love them, care for them and guide them. Not all or even many have a tragically short life but most have lifelong struggles that are a product of the moment they had to fend for themselves or have government workers attempt to help fend for them.
I watch my son grow and feeling my love grow for him on a daily basis I know I need to offer that same love to a child in need. I watch my man become a more amazing partner and father all the time as well and I can only hope one day we get a chance to give a child a better life, I want It has been a lifelong goal of mine…I need that.